We as parents always compare our kids from other kids. Is this the right approach? No, we should never do this. Every kid is unique, and we should understand this. But at the same time, we can inculcate positive discipline in our kids which is a modern discipline model. Today I will talk about what is Positive Discipline? How it can be used and what are the benefits of the same?
Positive Discipline (or PD) is a discipline model used by schools and in parenting that focuses on the positive points of behaviour. It is based on the idea that there are no bad children, just good and bad behaviours. Source: Wikipedia.
Positive Discipline is a need for parents to understand. And it is important that every parent should know the basic concept behind it because it is a responsibility of every parent to guide, correct and socialize them toward appropriate behaviours. A parent should understand that it is not the punishment which helps kids to be well behaved; rather it is a DISCIPLINE which is the key factor to kids good behaviour.
Instead of yelling, punishing or issuing time-outs, tap into positive discipline, suggests Jane Nelsen, Ed.D., author of Positive Discipline: The Classic Guide to Helping Children Develop Self-Discipline, Responsibility, Cooperation and Problem-Solving Skills.
FEW THINGS WHICH YOU AS A PARENTS SHOULD DO TO INCULCATE POSITIVE DISCIPLE IN YOUR KIDS DAILY ROUTINE.
- Try to understand the reason behind the particular behaviour of your kid because once you have identified the root of the behaviour, you can easily remove the cause and can heal the emotions. And make them understand the correct way so that your child does not repeat the wrong ways once they come across a similar situation.
- Be their role model: Controlling yourself is important — not your child. Dr Katharine C. Kersey, the author of “The 101s: A Guide to Positive Discipline,” says that parents need to model the types of behaviour they want their children to emulate. So set the best example for them by behaving well in front of them.
- Don’t bribe: Do not tell your child that if you do this, we will buy you a toy. Do not do this. Just guide them the best possible way, and that’s it. For example, when I take my 6 years old son outside, I tell him you have to behave like a good boy. And when he does something wrong, I do not shout or scold him in front of all. I take him aside and tell him that he is not behaving properly. Just this helps me a lot. You can also try.
- Appreciate your child: Sometime Whisper in their ear how wonderful they are, how much you love them, appreciate them for behaving well or for something they did well. Keep them motivated for doing as per instructions. They automatically will start listening to you.
- Show empathy and respect: Do not think that they do not understand when you are not behaving well with them. Though they are kids, they also deserve respect. So if you want them to respect you, first you should respect them.
The best security blanket a child can have is the parents who respect each other – Jane Blaustone.